Essential rules for Dads
Don’t get freaked out. Your daughter absolutely needs to know how normal she is, because she genuinely is. Always stay calm, and be sincere. Don’t joke but don’t be overly concerned - you’ll annoy her and she’ll know you’re clueless, which will make connecting with her at this confusing time even harder.
Understand her. She may be moody, emotional or withdrawn. She’s likely to be feeling bloated, tired and headachy, with a cramping tummy. A couple of painkillers will help, and Lil-lets Intimate Care Soothing Tummy Rub will also do the trick. Just give her space - if she’s not in the mood for a heart-to-heart or a game of Twister, let it go. She’ll be fine.
Be available. There may be a 3-minute window within which you can empathise. Don’t force advice down her throat, and don’t be aloof. This is all about her, it’s on her terms - so just be Dad and give her the time she needs to talk about it, if and when she needs you.
Be practical. Lil-lets has a full range of tampons and pads designed by a woman gynaecologist, as well as Intimate Care products for good vaginal hygiene and care. Give her the options - there are no rules for what she should be using; some girls start with tampons and others start with pads. It’s really personal. Understand that embarrassment and self-consciousness is a big part of being this age, and help her make an informed decision by stocking up at the shops so that she can try things out. That way, she can figure out what suits her in the safe environment of home.
Connect her to resources for advice. Direct her to the Teens area on this website, where she’ll find tons of useful information. If you’re floundering and she’s not getting the help she needs, bring in the big guns: a woman that loves her and has her best interests at heart. She won’t think any less of you, and there’s always the Lil-lets consumer hotline. Our resident expert will get back to her for a chat, any time.